You Deserve Recovery From Codependency
As humans we gravitate towards familiar situations and often find ourselves in relationships that look like our childhoods. It's tough and it’s also possible for things to be different too. While you don’t need a therapist to work on these tendencies, therapy can be a meaningful place to safely unpack the expectations from your upbringing that impact you today. Here are three tips to help you start addressing codependency in your life:
You deserve recovery from codependency.
Practice saying “no”: When we’re in a codependent relationship, often being placid or malleable is the other person’s dream, but learning to say “no” can transform relationships. Saying “no” will help your brain value your own decision making and help to rebuild self-trust. A solid “no” can be one of the most protective forms of self-care.
Live by your core values: What are the particular qualities that bring you the most fulfillment in life? Take the time to figure this out and write them down. From there, rank them from “Not So Important,” “Important,” and “Very Important.” Tape that to the mirror in the bathroom or keep it handy on the notes app in your phone. These core values will help serve as a guide for you when you’re feeling anxious, lonely, and or afraid. Plus, it ensures that you won’t get eclipsed by your other people’s values or needs.
Pursue a hobby or passion: Since we might have given so much time to other people, working on codependency is an opportunity to give yourself some of that time back. If you don’t know where to start, consider revisiting any old hobbies or passions that get you excited.
